Saturday, February 1, 2014

Teach Me to Teach You

There are books on everything.
There are books on how to walk, how to talk, and how to catch.
There are books on how to write and read, how to poop, and how to sleep.
There are books on how you are doing it right or wrong, if you have two or just one.

But there are  no books on the two of YOU.
My book on how to do things with the twins is called life.

I learn from them just as they learn from me.
I learn how to teach Natalia by singing, hugging, cheering and discipline with the occasional yelling.
I learn how to teach Noah by repeating, allowing him to do things himself,  and discipline with just a mean mommy look.
If all else fails, .... there is talking and understanding but there really is nothing like a lil spanking for some good memory branding.

They are different. So my approach in teaching them, discipline them, and even loving them is different. I got no books on this. Its trial and error. But we have fun. As they get older I need them to be a little clearer. I need them to teach me how to be the best mom I can be for each of them individually. I need to know how I can make them both amazing adults with love for life, with laughter filling all silence, with encouragement in following their dreams, fill them with kindness and confidence without them becoming arrogant, and even more... how do I teach them to get up after a fall? That its ok to fail, to defend themselves without causing harm to others, to stand up for what they believe, not to be bullies or become victims, to take care of each other, or how to be content with what they have?

I need them to teach me how to teach them how to be happy. (say that 3 times quick)
Because no book in the world will teach me that. And I'll never know if I got it right.
No pressure...