And do you know what journey that is?
A Twin Momma PREGNANT with another baby (just one this time) (Phew!) My bloggy friend Kandice agreed to be my new victim, she blogs over at This is the Journey God Chose and thank goodness for her fellow Mommy of multiples she isn't afraid to share how hard AND awesome life with twins can be. Enjoy!
Well hello. My name is Kandice. I am a 30 year old mother to two monsters wonderful 17 month old twin boys. We are about to welcome our 3rd boy in less than four weeks. And the answer is yes we are absolutely nuts! Our life is full of crazy, but we love every minute of it. I originally started blogging about my wonderful inability of my lady parts to do the one thing they were meant for. Our twins were conceived through IVF after 3.2 years. The 3rd you might ask? Yep, pure accident and blessing. Now I’m lucky if I have time, energy, or life in me to write about the daily debacles as a twin mom.
Being a Mommy of twins... describe it!
I’m not sure I even know where to begin. I think a good way to describe it is a catch 22. While it is a HUGE blessing it also comes with a lot of responsibility/work that most people can’t even begin to understand. Let’s pick some words that I think describe it best. Love, confinement, rich, broke, hilarious, overwhelming, miraculous, exhausting and really most of all it’s just double of everything. I could focus on the negatives of the double, but for today I will choose the positives. I get double the kisses, double the hugs, double the “mommies”, double the smiles, double the giggles, and double the joy of seeing their love for me. TWINS ROCK!
Do you have any phobias?
Sadly enough, yes. It’s kind of a weird one, but I’m afraid of elevators. Funny because I have to take one up to the 23rd floor every day. I’m not sure why I’m so scared of them. I’ve never had a tramatic experience (knock on wood here) with them. I just have this fear of getting stuck in it or it dropping. Hey I never said I wasn’t a little strange at times.
What is your biggest pet peeve?
Today I’m going with indecisiveness. This probably actually changes daily, but my morning experience has led it to be this today. MAKE A DECISION PEOPLE! Thanks for letting me yell that out on your blog. I feel better now.
What was the last book you read?
I’m not much of a reader. Believe it or not (being a mom of twins) I’m actually a very impatient person. Hence why the above is probably my pet peeve. Anyway, I can’t tell you the last book I finished. I picked up Twilight while I was on bedrest for my embryo transfer and made it to Chapter 7. Then I picked up Safe Haven by Nicholas Sparks the other day and made it to page 2. I prefer magazines with pretty pictures.
What's more likely: You are going to be super spoiled by your 3 boys or you are going to be the best slave they ever had?
I think you already know the answer to this question, but for the other readers out there, definitely going to be the best slave they ever had! I mean they already expect me to do all their laundry, cook all their meals, bathe them, change them and keep them entertained at all times. They are 1 ½. Can’t they do this for themselves yet?
When was the last time you went to the movies?
BAHAHAHA. What’s a movie? Even if we got a babysitter I think we would both rather spend our time sleeping. I really don’t think we have been since the twins were born.
What's the biggest difference with your twin pregnancy and your singleton pregnancy?
COMFORT! by far. I’m not sure people understand how miserable a twin pregnancy is. Not only did I throw up until 27 weeks, but it just hurt, everywhere, every day. The next would probably be the monitoring. I went twice a month with the twins and got ultrasounds constantly. A singleton is kind of boring. I’ve had two and only go once a month. Do they not care about this one too? Last would be the movements. I have now realized I didn’t know what it was like to feel a baby move inside you. The twins got so cramped so early on that they didn’t have much room. This kid on the other hand feels like he is going to crawl out of every area of my body.
How do you plan on surviving with twins and a baby?
I’m actually planning my funeral now. Ok I’m kidding obviously. Maybe. I actually really look forward to experiencing one baby. There was this part of me that felt I was going to miss out on that bond you feel with a newborn. Yes I bonded with the twins, but the one on one time just wasn’t possible. Life is going to be extremely difficult and challenging, but to already know the immense amount of joy those two boys bring I can only imagine what adding one more will do. Sure I’ll have some grey hairs and a few more wrinkles, but it will all be worth it. Just the other day my husband looked at me and said, you know all these people ask us how we do it, do you ever stop and think, how do we do it? I don’t have an answer for that because I honestly I don’t know. We survive on about 5 hours of sleep a night and pure exhaustion every day, but we manage. Our kids our fed, clothed and clean at the end of the day and believe it or not we all still have smiles on our faces. So the answer to survival is we just will. We won’t know how, but I know we will do it with a grateful heart.
Thanks for letting me be a part of this!
And there it is... Wish her luck!
Me? With my two, I don't envy her. I admire her bravery and will continue to follow her to see if she even has time to update us. Give us updates Kandice, don't forget us just because you are going to have 3 adorable little boys to take up your time. Once a quarter at least, kay?