Tuesday, December 8, 2009

To Be IVFed or not to be...

That is the question......

If I was confused before about all my treatments, well now I'm lost. And I happen to be lost in my own head, which is scary. Trust me. I know my head and let me tell you: its a dangerous place....

So in order for me to free myself from myself, I need your help cause I don't know what to do. Should I let myself be IVFed or not? The whole thing is so overwhelming and so so full of needles and injections and needles and more injections, did I mention it was WITH needles? I hate needles! Especially when it's going into MY skin. Your skin I'm fine with but not mine.

I've been wondering if I should try to do just one more IUI and risk "wasting" my insurance balance or just bite the bullet and go for the very invasive/scary IVF. This is where you come in, what would you do? Tell me, tell me!

Ultimately I'll make my own decision, but I thought you would feel special if I included you. You are welcome. Oh, and before you answer keep in mind that Jeff seems a little too excited to poke me with those needles.... I'm not sure I trust him.... so you shouldn't either...

25 comments:

  1. Do it, do it, do it!
    I wouldn't waste any more time or money if this was my best chance, just keep both eyes on Jeff, I wouldn't trust him either lol

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  2. Me, I think I would do it.
    It is scary, it is frightening (esp. when the man friend seems a little too keen on poking you... and not in THAT kind of way ;) )
    You have been trying so hard, you deserve this. I think I would go for it!
    Of course, it is all up to you but we are all here to find out whether you decide to IVF yourself :) *Hugs*

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  3. I don't have any advice, but I share in your fear of IVF. I am scared because I might have to make the same decision soon!! Can't wait to hear what you decide. GL!!

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  4. Its such a hard decision, especially when needles and an evil husband is involved, but since you made me feel special I vote for you to be IVFed!

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  5. I can understand how hard of a decision that is, praying for you!

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  6. Funny...(not really) that's a question I'm struggling with myself. I'll be back to see what your readers have to say. I definitely vacillate between more IUIs (with Follistim, though, so I've gotten over some of the needle fear) and just doing the IVF for the benefit of the higher success rates. Good luck.

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  7. Thanks for making me feel special, I think? Lol
    I guess if I wanted to go with my guts I would try the one more IUI, I'm guessing its with clomid again? But then if you have to think of the balance, maybe ivf should be the answer. Good luck deciding ;)

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  8. I would go for it Shanny, I probably would want to do it myself though, Jeff shouldn't be so excited lol

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  9. I'm a chicken too about sticking myself- but I think you should go for it!!

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  10. I think you should go for it, after all it has been over 2 years of trying and have had failed iui's, good luck deciding!
    I hope you also figure out a way to make friends with those needles, I'm scared of them too!

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  11. I would go for it...I was about to lose my mind failing all of the IUI's. The needles suck, but you get used to them...believe it or not. If you have a really good clinic, they will lay every single step out on paper so that you don't get confused. Good luck with your decision!

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  12. My DH & I are considering IVF - and we may get there - but at this stage there some ethical concerns we would need to work around that would lower our odds. Knowing our odds would be lower and we'd be paying that same big price tag, we're still doing IUIs. We may get there, though...But for you - I don't know! Good luck with the decision, I know it is a huge and tough one!

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  13. I haven't been in that position, but if I were...I think I would go for it! I hope whatever method you decide on is a raging success!

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  14. Shanny, I don't have all the answers for you, but my gut says go with the IVF. Those needles will definitely be worth the little bambino in the end [and I have a really good feeling, you'll get that bambino in the end!] :)

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  15. If I were you, I'd do it. I can't remember specific statistics right now, but after so many IUI's, the chances of the working for you isn't as likely. Furthermore, I always felt hopeful that starting a different form of treatment could possibly be what I needed to get pregnant. In my thinking, whatever I was already doing hadn't worked yet, and while it someday might, a more aggressive form of treatment was MORE likely to work. I know IVF is a lot of money, but I'd feel like I wouldn't want to use up my money on the same treatment I've already done when I could do something more likely to work.

    I can't remember right now how many IUI's you've done, so it might be worth it to do at least one more before moving on. I hope that either way, you get the BFP you are looking for. I wish you the best!

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  16. I've been doing injections with my IUI's, so needles for me are not the issue- I am with Hillary in that we have some ethical concerns that we're going to have to address if we do IVF. That being said, if this IUI isnt "the one", I think hubby is tired of things not working, so we will most likely start IVF in January...

    It's a big decision- to IVF or not. I would definitely think/pray about it before you make the decision!!

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  17. Coming from someone who has wasted a lot of freaking time ... just do the IVF and get it over with. It really won't be that bad once you get started. Or maybe it will - I don't know because I haven't started my IVF yet but ... at least if the outcome is positive, it will all be worth the pain. Just do it.

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  18. Shanny... click on my profile and email me :)
    I MUST know more about this all inclusive resort you speak of on my blog!! xo

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  19. I would do it. Hands down. Needles are no fun, but if it brings me a baby I would totally do it. The pain is only for a short time, but the baby is for a life time. Let us know what you decide to do!

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  20. What a difficult decision you have to make and I really wish you didn't have to make it! You deserve to be a mom -- and even though we've never met, I know in my heart that you will be a mom and you'll be a great one -- I know you'll get there somehow! You are in my prayers, like always, as you make this big decision!

    :)

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  21. The best advice I could give you is go with gut. What feels right...usually is right. Take your time and do what you feel is the best for you and I know it will be right decision. As always...you are in my prayers sweetie!

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  22. Oh sweets, that's such a hard decision. I hope you're able to come to a decision that you're comfortable with. For what it's worth, I think I'd go for the IVF, needles and all. Especially when insurance coverage is there for it. Good luck and ((hugs))

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  23. I say, a thousand times, yes.
    If you want to chat, my email address is on my profile.

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  24. Baby, my heart aches for you and I know what waiting for the results after the IUI's have done to you in the past and I also know that Jeff will not hurt you if he can avoid it(it's all in your head - that very dangerous place) so honey, you should go for it. I know it's difficult and I know how scared you are of the needles but you are also a very tough and determined girl so if this will make your dreams come true, go for it. I love you and more than anything, I don't want you to endanger your health, that cyst is scaring me so I am not sure if you should take more of that clomid stuff. I also need to know a little more about this procedure as well. Mom

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  25. I am in the process of my first IVF cycle and it has turned out to be a more beautiful experience rather than a scary one.

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