Friday, January 16, 2009

An Update from Jeff

First of all, I want to thank each of you for being there for my wife and supporting our journey to becoming parents.

Shanny asked me to write to you because she can't right now.

Today so far has been a very tough and sad day. Many of you know that this morning we were going to the R.E. for another blood test and the first sonogram to see if things were progressing along.


Shanny's back has been really bothering her, but with the progesterone supplements this was no surprise. My surprise was that she woke me around 3:30 a.m. this morning to let me know that she was having serious sharp agonizing pain in the right side of her lower abdomen. She was crying, told me to get up, and that we should go to the hospital. That freaked me out, especially because if you know Shanny, those are words that would never come out of her mouth.

Once in the ER, her vitals were taken (blood, blood pressure etc.) and we had a sonogram done to see if there was a possible ectopic pregnancy situation. The doctor saw no sac, either in the uterus, the right ovary, and could not find the left ovary, but since the pain was in the right side, he saw no evidence of an ectopic pregnancy and he commented that the lining in the uterus looked good. However, no sac yet - and that is a big concern obviously.

Unfortunately, the hcg level from the blood test came back at only 350. Last Sunday, it was 300 - so this is a bad sign :( Shanny's pain had gotten worse as the hours passed, and they finally gave her something - Tylenol. However, that was not gonna do the trick, so they finally gave her morphine with the IV drip.

She feels better now, still in pain, but manageable. They are admitting her for observation and will continue more tests, probably give her another ultrasound and continue to monitor her betas. The concerns are: a) ectopic pregnancy, b) cyst, and c) possible appendix issues (haven't tested her for that yet). It wasn't bad cramps or gas, but substantial pain in the abdomen that is constant and doesn't allow her to sit or lay down any particular way for very long.

As much as we "sort of" tried to disconnect from this pregnancy until we saw something "concrete" - we got attached, very much so, again to the idea of our own little baby since we got our BFP. Shanny will tell you that I am hopelessly hopeful, so I'm praying for a little miracle from my man Gee Oh Dee. But the reality is, most likely, that we are going to experience another painful loss.

Thank you for always reading, responding, and supporting this blog. It is so important and a great release for my wife. I read it too, and check all the responses too. It means the world to the both of us. Please keep us in your prayers. I'm sure she'll will write you soon.
Now, it's time to charge the I-Touch and get her some books to read.

- Jeff a.k.a. Shanny's Husband



Wifey Bonita, you are my everything and I love you more than you'll ever know. We will get through this, and come out even stronger on the other side. I love you, I love you, I love you...


Your Mucho Macho Muchacho :)

25 comments:

  1. NOO. I am so sorry Shanny and Jeff. Love this post from Jeff... glad you have an awesome husband to help you through this Shanny. I am so very sorry.

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  2. Jeff and Shanny - My prayers are with you and hope, despite Shanny's pain, that this pregnancy will continue. Believe in miracles.

    And Jeff, you sound like an amazing husband. Shanny is so blessed to have you in her life. Take care of each other.

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  3. I updated the boards for you Shanny. We are all thinking of you.

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  4. Reading your update brought tears to my eyes. I cannot tell you how deeply sorry I am because no words can describe it. Keeping you and Jeff in my prayers. Much love!

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  5. I'm so so sorry. My heart breaks for both of you and of course you are in my prayers.

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  6. I am so sorry that both of you are going through this uncertainty and pain. I pray that God keeps your baby safe and that Shanny is able to find some comfort. I will be checking the blog for updates!

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  7. Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this. Please know I'm praying for your sweet family!

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  8. I am so sorry to hear this news. My heart is breaking for both of you. All of my thoughts and prayers are with you both. May you take comfort in each other as you try to navigate your way through this.

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  9. What an incredible husband.... and an incredible girl. You are both so strong, I'm sure you'll get through this with each other. I know Shanny, I've been there- just last week.


    You're in my prayers- get well soon!

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  10. Oh Shanny and Jeff, I'm so very sorry. I hope for the best. You both will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  11. Jeff, thank you for the update. I'm so sorry that you both are dealing with this again. It just doesn't make sense. I know it's physically & emotionally painful, and I know you'll make it through it all, but I also know that it still hurts.

    Shanny, you've been so supportive of me and lifted me up when I needed it. I hope I can be the same for you right now. My heart hurts with yours, and my prayers go out to you both.

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  12. I am so sorry... You are both in my thoughts and I really hoped this was it.

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  13. I'm SO sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking of you too and continue my prayers for you. I'll be checking for updates.

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  14. I am so very sorry to hear you're going through this again Shanny. You guys are in my thoughts and prayers - big hugs.

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  15. Shanny and Jeff-my prayers are with you.

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  16. Oh my goodness.

    My prayers are with both of you as are my thoughts. I am believing and praying that everything is going to be just fine.

    Thank you Jeff for updating this and letting us know what is going on. You sound like an amazing husband. She is blessed to have you, especially at this time.

    Tell her that AmberDenae is praying for her y a confia en Dios!! El tiene control.

    I can't imagine her pain, physically and emotionally but I pray that this all comes to a close and that things progress successfully!

    God bless you dear, sweet Shanny! You're in all of our thoughts and prayers and you are loved!!

    Dios te bendiga!!

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  17. I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and Jeff.

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  18. My heart is breaking...I pray that your pain goes away and that everything turns out for the best with the baby. You are both in my thoughts and prayers :)

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  19. Shanny and Jeff you are both in my prayers and im hoping despite all of this that your little one sticks it out and grows.

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  20. I am so sorry you are going through this. Lots of prayers sent your way.
    Kristy from the Bump

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  21. Oh guys, I'm so sorry ou're going through this. Shanny, I hope you are not in pain soon and that everything turns out for the best. Jeff, thanks for keeping us updated. I will be keeping both of you in my thoughts.

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  22. This is my first time reading your blog, and I just want to tell you how sorry I am! Jeff seems like an amazing and loving husband...My prayers are with you

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  23. shanny lamento mucho que estes pasando por esto mi reina no se que decirte desearia de todo corazon que esto no pasara quiero saber que esta pasando con el bebe pero no se como preguntarte se que las cosas no van bien pero se que dios te va a bendecir con un bebe... te quiero mucho hermana mia

    jajita

    jeff you are a wonderful husband and brother in law i wish this was't hapining im praying for the both of you the funny thing is that i try not too cry but when i read the blog my tears were there
    hang in there

    luv jen

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  24. I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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